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The Gift of Tears

“Let your tears come, let them water your soul.” –Eileen Mayhew

I come  from a family of “criers.” For those of you who know me well, you  know that it’s true. I always carry a package of tissues with me — never  know when I might need one! Just about anything can trigger my emotional  side; the evening news, music, weddings, funerals, baptisms, hymns, movies,  graduations, recitals, birthdays, or a special handmade card from our  granddaughter. My tears can be happy, sad, mad or just glad. Posessing a  strong sense of empathy, my tears can also be triggered just by seeing  someone else cry.

I used to find it embarrassing to cry in public. I felt somehow ashamed  that I couldn’t control my emotions. I would struggle mightily to keep the tears from coming, only to end up crying even harder. “Shindler’s   List,” “Old Yeller,” “Bambi,” “Room With a  View,” “Sound of Music.” You get the picture! (Oh dear, a pun on words.) One good thing is that it was definitely OK to  cry at home. We could joke about passing around the tissue box on Sunday  evenings watching “Lassie Come Home.” It  wasn’t until I was in graduate school that I realized it’s really OK to let  the tears come naturally. One of my instructors took me aside to tell me  that “tears are a gift” and that I should give myself permission  to cry. That has changed my perspective on crying. “Don’t cry” is  no longer a part of my vocabulary.

And so, I hereby give you permission to give yourself permission to let  the tears come naturally.  It’s perhaps a gift from Spirit.

“Tears  are a river that take you somewhere. Tears lift your boat off the rocks,  off dry ground, carrying it downriver to somelace new, someplace  better.”   — Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Lesson learned: Let your tears come.    

Thank you, Eileen Mayhew and Clarisssa Pinkola Estes!

When was the last time you had a good cry?

Thank you! You are awesome! I appreciate your continued interest and support. I hope you  will share this wisdom with a friend.Ciao!  Beata

Beata

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