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Eldering: BE-coming Outrageous

In her chapter on Regret, in The Gift of Years, Joan Chittister writes that “The burden of regret is that, unless we come to understand the value of the choices we made in the past, we may fail to see the gifts they have brought us.  The blessing of regret is clear– it brings us, if we are willing to face it head on, to the point of being present to this new time of life in an entirely new way.  It urges us on to continue becoming.”

Are you an elder?  Retired?  Wondering what’s next?  After years of DO-ing, DO-ing and DO-ing, it’s time to take a deep breath and spend time on some serious BE-ing, or BE-coming.  At the beginning of this year, 2019, I encourage you to reflect on what it means for you to be an elder in today’s culture.  Perhaps you feel somewhat invisible, unheard, misunderstood, no longer useful?  Well, it’s not too late to begin again.  Start with BE-ing. Let go of regret, all those “should-haves.”

Here are a few suggestions to jump-start your BE-ing:  (adapted from my Annual Planner)

The Last Year in Review

List your accomplishments, and Celebrate!
What were some things that you thought you “should” do but didn’t get done?  What can you learn from that?
How much time did you spend “BE-ing?”  vs. “DO-ing?”

The Year Ahead

In what ways might you explore being “Outrageous?” What does that mean for you?
What can you let go of, stop doing, or get rid of, that is no longer useful to your life?  (fear, worry, relationships, clutter, etc.)
What do you have to look forward to in the coming year (gatherings, vacation, new learning)
When/where can you find time for just BE-ing?
Who will be your BE-ing support?

Blessings on your year to BE!

Visit my website to learn more about my upcoming Winter/Spring classes:

  • Feminine Archetypes: Thursdays, Mar 7, 14, 21, 28 2019
  • The Feminine Face of God:  Tuesdays, April 2, 9, 16, 23
  • The Gifts of Aging:  Thursdays, May 2, 9, 16, 23
Call me if you are interested in a half-hour Discovery Session.







A Quantum Leap Year

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~ Mark Twain 

The word ‘Quantum’ means Important, Significant, Major, Substantial or Huge.  What a good way to think about 2016, and consider what might be on your own Quantum List.  I will be writing a series of Quantum Reflections throughout the year, and will also share some questions for you to consider.


Quantum Incubation

What dreams, desires and wishes are lying dormant in you this Winter?  Will they be ready to sprout come Spring?   My own thoughts turn first to being clear about what I choose to do this year.  I’m curious about what will show up when I allow space in my life for reflection and meditation!  Here are a couple questions to consider while possibility is incubating!

  1. What’s ONE thing that you can do that will allow you to access your dreams, desires & wishes?
  2. What’s standing in your way, that you want to let go of?
  3. What new things do you want to add to your life?
  4. How will you celebrate success?
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Incubation – by Lisa Rough

Happy New Year!

I love poetry, and John O’Donohue is one of my absolute favorite poets. This particular blessing shown below seems fitting as we begin the new year.

I’m also including my Annual Review & Planner for 2016.   I hope you will give yourself the gift of time to fill it out then share your celebrations and intentions with a friend.  Goals and intentions are much more likely to happen when you share them with someone.  You can also find the Planner on my website under Links & Cool Stuff.

Click this button to view and print the user-friendly 1-page document:  Annual Review & Planner 2016

A Blessing for Equilibrium

Like the joy of the sea coming home to shore,
May the music of laughter break through your soul.

As the wind wants to make everything dance,
May your gravity be lightened by grace.

Like the freedom of the monastery bell,
May clarity of mind make your eyes smile.

As water takes whatever shape it is in,
So free may you be about who you become.

As silence smiles on the other side of what’s said,
May a sense of irony give you perspective.

As time remains free of all that it frames,
May fear or worry never put you in chains.

May your prayer of listening deepen enough
To hear in the distance the laughter of God.

~ John O’Donohue ~


Felice Anno Nuovo!  And, bessings for a year of equilibrium!


“Color Me Beautiful”

Welcome Sweet Springtime!  Let’s have some fun with coloring…

Remember how much fun you had as a child when you got a new coloring book and a brand new box of 64 crayons? I kept my crayons in an old cookie tin, kind of like this one that I found in an antique shop!  I keep crayons and markers in it for our granddaughter to use when she comes to visit.


A couple weeks ago I wrote about “Finding Flow.”   Well, I’ve been flowing ever since!   I even Zentangled some plastic Easter Eggs!   In addition to practicing the art of Zentangle I’ve also been ‘coloring’ my own tangle creations.  And, did you know you can purchase coloring books for adults?  I just bought one.  It has fascinating, intricate designs in black and white – you choose your own colors using crayons, pencils or markers, start coloring and see what happens. Let the coloring commence!

Here is one of my Zentangle creations for you to print out and color; a spring bouquet.   If you like the results, take a photo and send it to me at  I’d love to see the beauty you created.

Spring Bouquet
Happy Spring!  Sending you showers of flowers…


Playing with Food


And so there I was having lunch at the kitchen table, watching the food channel.  I had dumped out a few pretzels from the package to enjoy with my sandwich.  And suddenly the pretzels looked like letters to me!  I decided to try to write something – perhaps my name? Voila!  Who knew pretzels could be so much fun?  When was the last time you played with your food?

Go ahead, play with food!!  Be creative and have some fun!

Play with Food

Creatively yours,  Beata